I want to be able to sleep over at your house and only have to bring my tooth brush b/c if I'm not sleeping naked you'll let me sleep in your t shirt, boxer briefs and even wear your socks (b/c I can't sleep barefoot).
I like to cuddle--a lot, and touch, kiss and have sex--a lot. You need to like those things too or I'll drive you crazy, you'll feel suffocated, I'll feel rejected and we'll both resent each other.
I like sleep overs, I like to fall asleep cuddling, I like that when I have a nightmare you're there, even if I don't wake you up touching you makes me feel safe and able to fall back asleep.
You need to be motivated. What do you want from life? From yourself? From me? How are you going to make this world better?
Of course I have friends who have different beliefs on religion, politics, etc.-- but I need you to be on the same page as me for the most part. There are times I feel the whole world is against me, I need you to be on my side.
No smoking. No drugs. Don't drink and drive. Wear your damn seat belt--all the time.
I'm feisty, it's true. I am a lot to handle until you learn to handle me. I get frustrated over little things, but then I realize it's stupid and I get over it quickly. I know life is too short to be caught up in something mean someone else said, or someone taking my parking spot etc. But for the moment that I forget, and I take that tone with you, please remember it's not towards you, that I don't mean it, and I just need a hug.
You must fight with me. I know that sounds crazy, but in a healthy relationship you need healthy fighting. I don't yell or name call, I'll even ask for a break if I feel too upset, I can even ask for a hug if I feel hurt. Fighting can be done in a calm but passionate manner and it's okay to do it as long as you come to a resolution. I know I'm not always right, that I can't always have my way, I will compromise, I will see the bigger picture, I will take your needs/wants into consideration and do what's best for us.
Babe cakes, baby, babe--you will hear this a lot. It's my way of letting you know I feel safe with you, that I care for you. I recently read that pet names are a sign of a healthy relationship b/c it takes us back to a time when we felt safe in our childhood or if you didn't feel safe then you now do with your partner and you're acting it out.
We're all damaged but I don't think you're broken. My therapist asked me if I have a 'savior' complex, if I sought out girls who seemed damaged or broken and I wanted to fix them. Maybe, not on a conscience level, but maybe I thought I was doing something good. I know now that we are the only ones who can fix ourselves, if you see a need for improvement that's all on you, I'll support you but I'm not trying to fix you.
Don't be afraid to let go--let go of all the 'damage' everyone else has done to you, don't 'punish' me or our relationship with those insecurities and jealous ways. I will trust you until you give me reason not to, then I'll leave your ass. I don't have time to always wonder where you are, who you're with, if you cheated on me, etc. Be honest with me,be loyal, be faithful, I'll do the same. It sounds to easy yet seems so difficult for some people.
Communicate. Use words. I can't read your mind. True story.
Wish me luck finding her.
Harlow
